When I first started on my journey I wasn’t thinking about creating sustainable habits at all. I was just trying to figure out how to get through my day.

I was exhausted, burnt out, sick, and overwhelmed. I had a small kid to take care of plus I was working a few different jobs. I had created a situation where I was super busy, running around constantly, and usually taking care of things for everyone except myself.

If someone had started talking to me about creating sustainable habits my eyes would have probably glazed over and I wouldn’t have been able to hear a word they were saying.

I may not have been thinking about creating sustainable habits, but I did know I didn’t want to live this way anymore. Things absolutely had to change.

I wanted to be able to do more than just barely make it through the day before I collapsed into bed. I wanted to be able to work, play with my kid, hang out with my family and friends, and anything else I wanted to do each day.

I had no idea where to start. It felt overwhelming just thinking about it. I wondered what was wrong with me and why I wasn't like everyone else I knew that seemed to be able to do it all.

I finally figured out if I could take one small thing off my plate and have an extra moment for myself it would help me feel better. I mustered up all my courage and I asked my husband to cook dinner one night. Not one night a week, just that night.

The funny thing about that moment is I felt totally selfish and guilty for asking. I thought it was my job to take care of everyone and I felt like I was failing because I needed help. His response made it easier, as he quickly responded with a yes.

It sounds so small but this was a huge moment for me. I started asking for what I wanted. All it took was doing it the first time to start feeling more comfortable doing it again and again. The steps were tiny but they were like that first, tiny, rolling stone that starts an avalanche. That one choice started the momentum to make all the other choices easier.

This process didn't happen in a week, a month, or even a year. It is still an ongoing process. It has never been easy for me to ask for what I wanted without feeling guilty or selfish.

I have had many mentors along the way who have reminded me that it's ok to ask for what I want and to take up space in this world. It is honestly one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. It is also the catalyst for how I continue to grow and show up in the world the way I want to.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Do one thing every day that scares you."

It's not easy to get started. But when you think about the alternative, staying where you are in life and feeling crappy, there really is no other solution. Fear will come up. You will worry that you are going to offend other people when you start taking up space and asking for what you want. You may, and that's ok. Those are not your people.

Your people will support and love you. When you start to love yourself enough to ask for what you want, more people who support that will appear in your life. It happens organically.

It's your time. But you have to choose to start. When you are ready, find that one tiny thing that you can find to lighten your load.

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